Do You Know Who You Are?

We truly come to know ourselves in the context of others. The more isolated and disconnected we are, the more shattered and distorted our self-identity.
We are not healthy when we are alone.
We find ourselves as we connect to others.
Without community we don't know who we are.
Have you ever watched the early stages of American Idol - you know the part where unimaginably untalented people audition for the show? Have you ever wondered whether it's really possible that a person could be so unaware of a lack of talent? How could a person be twenty-four years old and not know? Didn't anyone ever bother to tell them? Wouldn't it be the loving thing to do? Yes, and that's the whole point. In a health context of loving relationships we come to know ourselves.
When we live outside of healthy community, we not only lose others,
but we lose ourselves.